I’ve never been a big brother, but I grew up with a great one, so I’ll do my best to give you some tips on how to be the best big brother you can be:
1) Be best friends with your brother. That’s how I viewed my big brother when I was growing up.
2) Forgive you brother. I did a lot of things that really angered or hurt my brother but he’s always forgiven me despite those wrongdoings and shortcomings, and I greatly appreciate that.
3) Make protecting and looking out for your brother your top priority. I always remember my brother pulling me back as I was set to run across 117th Avenue in Miami late one night after hanging with his friends. I didn’t notice an oncoming cop car with no lights going around 100 miles per hour. He did. I wouldn’t be here today if he wasn’t looking out for me like that.
4) Include your brother. You guys will be five years apart, so you’ll definitely have your own interests, friends, pursuits, etc. But try your best to include him. I promise it will mean a lot. I know my brother would get annoyed at times by my constant hanging around (he used to joke that I was his tail) but nevertheless he allowed me to hang around plenty, and it definitely helped mature physically, intellectually, and emotionally.
5) Teach your brother. Play him a lot of music and movies (even ones he’s not supposed to see yet). Give him books to read. Teach him to love math, science, sports, etc. In many ways, you will be an even more influential figure in his life than your mother or I.
6) Let your brother take care of you too. I’d like to believe that I’ve been able to guide and generally chip in to help my brother get along in life over the years. Let your little brother do the same for you. It’s the least he can do to repay you for being one of the original and fundamental anchors in his life.